How Do I Raise a Good Child?
For the record, there is no parenting book, article, or forum that will ensure that your child grows up and takes the right path. The best thing that you can do for your child is to be consistent, learn from your mistakes, and do the best job that you possibly can to show them how to live a successful, fulfilling life.
Where to Find Help
The best advice to be given, is only an ask away. Ask a friend or loved one that has experience in the area that you’re struggling in. Chances are that they know exactly what you’re going through and can lend you some great advice. If you don’t have anyone that you’re close to, you can always turn to the internet. There are tons of forums and blogs that are made specifically for people who need parenting advice. Some of these online forums even have live chat options, making it easy for your struggles to be heard and answered.
Parenting is a Full-time Job
Remember earlier when I said that parenting is a lifelong commitment? It isn’t just a lifelong commitment but, it’s the hardest job you will ever have in your life. Raising children isn’t all butterflies and rainbows, it’s hard work. You can’t expect to be your child’s best friend if you don’t look out for their best interest, sometimes this means that you have to lay down the law when problems arise. You have to teach them to take responsibility for their actions, you have to give them consequences for their wrong-doings, and you have to be consistent with your child. No matter how young or old your child is, they need a guiding hand on them. That hand is forever going to be you.
Teaching your children to do things on their own is very important as a parent. Sure, you want to make sure that your child has everything they’ve ever wanted but, you also don’t want to be doing their laundry and cleaning their bedroom for the rest of their life. Showing your child how to do things rather than doing things for them is a good way to teach self-reliance. This includes doing simple chores, tying their shoes, brushing their teeth and hair, bathing properly, writing their name, and the list goes on. Keep in mind, every time you do something for your child, you take away a learning experience.
Most parents complain about their children not listening or being disobedient. One way to encourage compliance in your children is to be a positive influence. You can’t yell all the time and expect your children not to yell back at you. Some other good tactics that encourage compliance are making sure their feelings in the situation are validated, being silly when you make a request, and giving options.
Spending quality time with your children is a great way to bond and grow your relationship. You don’t have to spend a lot of money to spend time with your family, simply setting aside time in your day to do something that you all love together will be a lasting memory for your children. Activities like tag, playing dolls, cooking together, going for walks, eating together, pajama party nights, and trips to the park are all perfect examples of spending quality time together.
Remember that there is no such thing as a perfect parent, which means, you can’t expect your child to be perfect. Trying to get to perfection will only drive you crazy, you might as well enjoy the little moments instead of trying to perfect them. Because in the end, the only thing you have left are memories, you want your kids to remember the good bits of childhood, not the ones that were full of tension.